The Most In Depth Free Relationship Advice On The Web |
Posted: April 8, 2019 |
Eight long years ago, pushed to the brink by my own breakup, A Breakup rose from the ashes of my own grief in the form of a breakup journal. Today, thanks to the support of readers (like you) everywhere, that journal is now a fully featured relationship blog and occasional counselling service that offers advice both for free and as a premium service. You can tap into the free advice, right now, by using the site's contact page or by interacting with the comments. Free Relationship AdviceI have become convinced over the years that offering relationship advice should be done on a one-to-one basis. This is because love doesn't necessarily make sense, and context really is everything when it comes to finding long term solutions. In this sense the Unknown Breakup is built from the ground up to accomodate this aspect of relationships. The fact that emotions don't always make sense. In the end it isn't the counselor or the expert who solves the problem, it's you. Nobody can tell you who your partner is. Nobody but you knows what your relationship is. And nobody but you can make the decisions you need to make. My attempts limit themselves to expanding and structuring the process. Not of judging you, your partner, or the situation as it presents itself. Signs You Have The Right AdviceFinding the right relationship advice means finding someone who is there to support you, but doesn't offer an algorithmic view of relationship success. Often, these services are run by marketers not by relationship experts. The result are promises that can't be kept. This is more than just morally a questionable practice, it will cause hurt because it caters to our false hope and creates an expectation that may never come to pass. Realistic relationship advice is often sobering, because the realy of dealing with relationships is a sobering truth. Long time healing is best served by offering no nonsense advice rather than emplying gimmicks that don't work (such as no contact or how giving an ex time and space alone is going to right all wrongs magically. Hint -- it won't). Find someone that is willing to tell you what your friends and family won't. But at the same time someone who is present. No matter which way you cut it reconciliation, even if it is in the cards, demands becoming down to earth. And moving on likewise. This is the only win-win scenario for the dumpee. Questions To Ask Yourself Before ChoosingAsk yourself what the purpose of the counselling is and structure your questions and interactions around achieving this goal. Take control of the counselling and make it work for you, in the end it is only a tool. Your counsellor cannot solve your problem for you, he/she can only help you become objective about what the best way to go about it is. Ask yourself if the price is fundamentally worth the service. A couple of lines of enouragement every other day does not justify an investment on your part. You can find that kind of service, even of high quality, for free. If you are willing to pay for a premium service, make sure you get a premium service. I suggest opting for a counsellor or platform that has a public blog, and that the author is the same person who runs the counselling. This is so that you know before hand whether or not the person is the right kind of fit for you. Don't blindly put your faith into someone, especially if they offer promises regarding your romantic chances. How could they possibly know that?
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